Women in my life

For the longest time I believed that my all-girls school and college education was a disadvantage. Add to that the fact that I grew up in a family of women–mum, sisters, aunt, cousins who stayed with us, and a father who travelled a lot.

Yesterday while sitting on a panel, to discuss women in leadership (bossy pants or nanny 101), one of the co-panellists spoke about the invisible rules.

It occurred to me at that point, much of my life those rules didn’t apply to me because of what I thought were the disadvantages. At school we played a lot of sports, we did some heavy-duty cleaning, there was no boy-thing girl-thing; at home, we were expected to know everything from changing the fuse wire to handling the spanners and screwdriver for tasks around the house. We were taught to live life, and manage it, without a thought that they were gender-based roles.

Of course at school and college we were all rather guy-crazy, getting quite excited at the sight of any young, passably presentable man on campus. But other than that, I grew up more or less gender blind/indifferent.

Still, because of how I grew up, the environment, the most important people in my life are women. I have  large, very large circle of women friends. But for me, these six seven (+1) below epitomise all things strong, charming and beautiful;  AND the fact that they seem to unconditionally love me, despite knowing the worst about me (oh yes!).

They never make me doubt the friendship, or feel insecure. For me (the big fat doubter that I am) this makes them truly precious.

I thank them for being in my life, and for making me believe I am important and loved.

There is one other person. R. But I do know she might object to her picture being here, or tease me about this melodramatic post. But you know who you are.

So Happy Women’s Day people, and I do hope my little women will grow up with all that I enjoyed and more.

Edit: My sis whose maths talent has improved vastly, pointed out that i had the number wrong!
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Umm Oviya + Nilah = Mother of Oviya + Nilah. Because in the Arab world a woman is first addressed as bint X (daughter of X) and then once she has a son (Y) she is Umm Y. I am not sexist, so don't mind surrendering my identity to my daughters.

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7 comments on “Women in my life
  1. :) totally agree with the part on women being self-reliant. dad taught me to hammer nails, use a screwdriver, use a drill and got me interested in trouble shooting faulty equipment at home.. i thank my dad for all this and i am sure my daugthers will pick up these skills from me.. we need to be independant, thinking individuals.. ..that aside Vani, lovely post and must say that u sisters look gorgeous.. was ooohing over each of those sarees :)

  2. Hi, Loved the post, and yes you have been tagged :)

  3. Nilu says:

    The best post ever…thoroughly enjoyed it!!!! Great pics too!

  4. inbavalli says:

    100% true post. I studied in a coed school where the boys did electrical stuff at SUPW (workshop) while the girls did embroidery. When I went to a women’s college I felt suddenly empowered. From stage setup to hiring cosutmes to rangoli we had to do everything and what an experience it was!

    The sisters pic is beautiful. I’m sure it’s up on the wall at your parents’ place :)

  5. teesu says:

    I love the part about the sisters-act–what you had to say about it. :-)

    Oh and of cos, thanks:-P

  6. loved this piece. and the sister act : )

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