…that I spoke of in my last post.
- Every woman I knew had at least one story of sexism to recount. Many had several.
- Almost all of them struggled to respond appropriately, though every one wished they had a scripted response.
- All my white contacts thought this was a purely sexist issue.
- All my non-white contacts thought this was a purely racist issue.
- All my friends (regardless of colour) thought it was a combination of both — this would not have been said to a man of colour; and it most probably would not have been said to a white woman.
- That all those who have accused me of being oversensitive (in the past as well), are those I’ve accused of being racist or sexist. The bystanders have invariably seen my point of view.
- And that is called gaslighting, Tracy tells me. Here is the link to an article on that: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-women-arent-crazy/ (And thank you Tracy for being such a good friend that evening.)
- And coming back to those who think I’m oversensitive, they genuinely don’t get it, or think it’s only a ‘joke’…
- So that brings me to Moha‘s comment on my post that there’s always truth in a joke… an intention as well, I must add. And that intention is not always to get a laugh.
- The worst kind of sexism for me is the one shown by women… when they do think it’s okay to receive such comments or to be stereotyped. I feel a mixture of anger and pity for them.